Sunday, September 6, 2015

Play Your Country Song Backward: Get The Girl You Lost


Play Your Country Song Backward: Get The Girl You Lost

A Guest Post by Scott Pogue

Everyone has probably heard the joke about playing a country song backwards, but just in case you haven't, it goes: What do you get if you play a country song backwards? You get your dog back, your car back, your house back and your wife back. Sad as it is to say, that isn't only the case with country songs.

According to the US Census Bureau, roughly 40-50 percent of Americans will at some point be able to say the same thing about playing their lives backwards. Sad as that is, it's sadder still that most never work out the problems that caused the loss.

Even though most of these problems are never resolved, there is hope. If you are willing to work at it, and learn how to deal with the situation, you may yet repair your failed relationship. Let me tell you right up front, there is no one way that always works to fix failed relationships.

Not all relationships can be fixed, but there are some things you can do, too many to mention here, that can help get your loved one back.

For there to be any chance of saving your relationship, at least one of you must actually have some desire to do so. Since you are reading this article I assume that the one would be you. If you are the only one, cheer up anyway. Even if you don't both want to work it out it is possible, in time, to change the other's mind.

If you want to work it out, first and foremost, do not date someone else. Doing so cannot help your situation. The first thing you must do is stop pleading to be taken back. Pleading is an indication of weakness, and gives the impression that you aren't worth taking back.

Let her know that you agree you need time apart, but that you still care for her. Give her space, but still be there for her. It takes time.

You must look back at the problem. There are always problems on both sides. You may have a long list of things she does that are a problem in the relationship. I can guarantee you that she has an equally long list of things she's unhappy with about you. By now you've fought with her enough to know what her problems with you are.

If you truly love her and want her back, you have to focus on you, not her. Correct the problems in your life. No, you shouldn't tell her you're going to do it. Just do it. Don't give her the chance to think you're making promises you won't keep, or that you're lying to her. Just change those things. She'll notice.

In time, she may come around and start having more contact with you. I'm sure you know the old saying, distance makes the heart grow fonder. It's true. Eventually she will probably let you know that she has seen the changes in you, and that she would like to start spending more time with you.

Ask her out, but do not be too forward. Let her decide how fast to go. Let her know there is no pressure, you just want to be with her.

Treat her the way a lady should be treated. In time you may be able to play your country song backward.

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